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LOVE-LUST=> LIVE-IN……… VALENTINE?


Woah woah… love is all around me….
Nooo I am not in love.
But Valentine’s Day is around the corner. So most of the happening places are fully decorated in Delhi .
Not all only this, open the newspaper, you’ll see all the great offers like take your partner for holiday at great price….book your table …. Couple entry charges… and blah blahhhhhh…

Not only this even online, you open any site, all the flashy colored background showing all the red and pinky-pinky themes… oh man seriously, it is annoying man.

It was time, when Valentine’s Day was only celebrated in western country. But now it is celebrated like any other festival. Only difference is, this day is only for couples.
Valentine’s day is all about love, relationship, commitment and the love that we all want from a partner is not possible without both having the commitment to try to make it last.

The oldest institution on earth concerning human relationships is marriage that has survived all odds all over the world. Despite doubts raised by people who suffer failure in marriage, strangely it is something that most aspire to reach at some point in their life. Those who fail once, wish to try it the second or even third time. I am not talking of western countries where celebrities get into multiple marriages for the sake of money offered for scoops.

So what is it that makes marriage desirable? Why not just live in together and walk away when it becomes inconvenient? Why get married and then suffer the trauma of divorce if you are incompatible? Why suffer idiosyncrasies of your partner? Why spend rest of your life with a person whose wavelength doesn’t match yours? Why travel half way to make up rather than walk away whenever you want? These choices are available in Live in relationships.

No one has complete control on things and situations around. This includes the choice to have a perfect and/or ideal mate. We would all like to have a person as our life-partner who is perfect in our eyes in all possible aspects. But is it actually possible? Isn’t it only a wishful thought? And are we ourselves perfect?

Many people imagine that living together before marriage resembles taking a car for a test drive. The “trial period” gives people a chance to discover whether they are compatible. This analogy seems so compelling that people are unable to interpret the mountains of data to the contrary.

Here’s the problem with the car analogy: the car doesn’t have hurt feelings if the driver dumps it back at the used car lot and decides not to buy it. The analogy works great if you picture yourself as the driver. It stinks if you picture yourself as the car.
“Only Fools think in terms of negality”, otherwise love is enough..

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Posted by on February 7, 2012 in General

 

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GOD and FACEBOOK



You have showed me another side of me.
Another side I never thought I could be.
I wanna change, rearrange.
I know I can be something.
I know (I know, I know) I’m getting better.

You can say what you believe.
Tell me I’m not worth it, maybe I’d agree.
Well i know that it’s just stones.
No they wont break my bones.
You can say it all you want.
I love myself today, no matter what you say.
I love myself today, and it feels so good.

There are people who are obviously using their profiles on networking sites to create an image. They are trying to show that they are happening people.

Some are simply irritated by all the drama on the web, I know people who tweet every 20-30 minutes, and you know exactly when the got up because their first tweet of the day is posted, and then you know what they had for breakfast. A friend mine once tweeted that his relationship with his girl was over, that was even when before she got out of his car.


Breaking up with someone is not a hush-hush thing anymore, and with social networking websites, it’s a war of inflated and hurt egos. “A friend, after his break-up started dating a someone else, this got the ex fuming and she too made a new boyfriend. And obviously everyone in the friends circle knew it was as if they were competing to put pictures with their new partners on their profiles.

Well, the verdict is out, time to tone it down a bit guys? Lol…..

I see girls taking constant pics of themselves, making what is quite honestly stupid poses with usually their lips pouted out. Am I the only one who finds this strange and quite honestly retarded?


Many females especially teenage females want attention. So they take pictures of themselves as a way to feel better. But what many teens do is go a step beyond taking photos. They not only take photos of themselves, but they share the photos with other peers, and they post on the internet. Many teen girls do this because they lack self esteem and they are looking for someone to confirm that they are indeed beautiful. Now there is nothing wrong with taking photos of yourself. But the problem only arises when you do it to get attention because you feel badly about yourself and you want someone to affirm you.


The height of self obsession:
An Egyptians blogger Aliaa Magda Elmahdy has become a household name in the middle east. She shared a global uproar after a friend posted a photo of her naked on Twitter. She first posted her pictures on her blog.

Previously god was always on our minds, it used to be mirror of own reflection but today facebook has become the new god, the FACE, the BOOK where everyone wants each moment of its FACE.

 
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Posted by on November 26, 2011 in General

 

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Let’s Play With Our Star


Astrology;
Astrology is based on universal, timeless symbolism, and speaks to us on deep and meaningful levels, as artistic expression often does.

In our daily life experiences, each one of us can recognize and directly experience the astounding variety in which the omnipresent astrological symbolism continuously manifests itself. With some basic astrological knowledge and practice, we can develop a sense of how alive astrology is. This process enhances curiosity and a fresh, childlike, and ‘beginner’s mind’ approach to learning how these symbols keep coming to life, in the world around and within us. Learning about astrology experientially is an exciting process I have been fascinated with for many years.

We can also engage in creatively expressing these universal symbols (especially signs and planets), through artistic media (like collages) or drama, and thus become an artist or actor of astrology – while avoiding the temptation of over identifying with them, and becoming ‘archetype possessed’.
Astrology Promotes Healing
Healing is derived from ‘becoming whole’ (again). Wholeness is healthy.

It is a basic principle of healing to honor and support the parts of the body and psyche in their integration into the whole of a human being, so that they can fulfill their purpose to sustain well-being.
Astrology offers ways to understand ourselves or others better, by carefully looking at the wholeness of a human being as a wonderful, unique composition of the different sides and functions of a personality that is always more than the sum of its parts. Humanistic, psychological astrology has therefore a holistic, synthesizing, and synergistic approach. It shows how the parts relate to one another, how they keep unfolding over time, and how this process contributes to our life creation.

By honoring the path and meaning of one’s life, the insights gained through astrology can be an important starting point for the healing process of oneself or of a relationship with a significant other.

In relationships, astrology can help heal (making whole) the relationship, by recognizing and acknowledging the individual contributions, as well as the ‘character’ of the relationship as a co-created ‘product’ of the partners. –
• Astrology is not a religion, it is belief, means a feeling that something exists or is true, especially one without proof it does not relate to the study of astrology, therefore some believe in astrology and some don’t.
• Lal kitab; it is the name of five books which expounded unique system of Indian astrology now known as Lal Kitab system of astrology.

• People believe in astrology, starting what your name tells about your personality, what colors suits you, what is you lucky number? And so on.
• Starting from Tarot card reading to numerology, people believe in it.

• Interestingly, using just birth time and place, he seemed to come up with the correct identify of the mystery guest more often than anyone, & I wondered what that was.

Or you may want to order a special exclusive report based on your birth details on a voluntary donation of say $2.00 by clicking here. If you cannot afford, of course, it’s free. The report will indicate suitable gems on the basis of:
• Sun sign (Western Astrology)
• Ascendant or Lagna (Hindu Astrology)
• Moon Sign or Rasi
• Dasa also called Mahadasa (Period)
• Birth Number (Numerology)

And so on.

Not only this, there are birthstones . The idea of a birthstone connected with the month of your birth is based in traditional astrology. Each stone has its own unique character and abilities too. Some stones are healers; others are aids to concentration; some are warriors; some are good for business.

Wearing the stone of your sign will focus the energies of the sign through the gem, enabling their expression in your daily life. The energy of the sign is channelled through the planet placed there (usually the Sun, Moon, or planetary ruler) and this energy is expressed and focused through the corresponding gem.

Then comes the TAROT CARD READING;

no-one really knows how Tarot works. It really doesn’t matter how they work; tarot readings can help provide you with a clear reflection of your past, present and future projections, and help you to reflect on your experiences, and hence gain a fresh prospective on your life.

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in stars

 

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OVERCOMING ADDICTION

OVERCOMING ADDICTION

Addiction can also be viewed as a continued involvement with a substance or activity despite the negative consequences associated with it. Pleasure and enjoyment would have originally been sought; however, over a period of time involvement with the substance or activity is needed to feel normal.

People turn their habit into addiction and at later phase they got stuck in a disaster where there is no way out.


It is the perception towards the object of addiction for an addict that he is not addicted. One has to change his/her perceptions towards life and things to change the addictions.

Perception of the object needs to be change.
There are so many addiction of a human nature starting from fast food to alcohol or to sex…. Many people who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction may eventually wind up with an addiction of a life time damages the god gifted body and spirit.


There are so many addiction of a human nature starting from fast food to alcohol or to sex…. Many people who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction may eventually wind up with an addiction of a life time damages the god gifted body and spirit.
Like Wine is statistically associated with a decrease in death due to cardiovascular events such as heart failure.
But over dose of anything is harmful..

ALCOHOL:
Consumption leads to stimulation of the nervous system where the body feels calm but since the few minutes are desire to the end up for few minutes, ended up getting addiction.

Sex.. :
Sex addicts engage in distorted thinking of ten rationalizing & justifying their behavior and blaming others for problems.
Sexual addiction also associated with risk taking. A person with a sex addiction engages in various forms of sexual activity, despite the potential for negative and/ or dangerous consequences. In addiction to damaging the addict’s relationships and interfering with his or her work and social life, a sexual addiction also puts the person at risk for emotional & physical inquiry.

Behaviors associated with sexual addiction:-
1. Compulsive masturbation
2. Multiple affairs
3. Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one night stand
4. Consistent use of pornography
5. Unsafe sex
6. Exhibitionism
7. Phone or cyber sex
8. Obsessive dating through personal ads
9. Sexual harassment
A person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity & no emotional bond with his or her sex partners.
Problem of sex addiction often leads to feeling of guilt and shame.

Smoking:
You may love your life or you may hate it, but unless you are suicidal you wouldn’t want to risk it. I hope you agree. So I guess we have already agreed upon something within such a short acquaintance, that’s a good start.

Smoking is defined as the act of smelling or inhaling the smoke of a substance, mostly tobacco. There are many reasons for doing so, the most common being cultural reasons or peer pressure. Cigarettes, pipes and hookahs are the most popular methods of smoking and hence also the most injurious smoking elements for health.

The human body knows that smoking is injurious to health; therefore, it tries to counter it at the start. That is why coughing, sore throat, nausea and other negative feelings are aroused in the body when a person tries to smoke the first time. People start with one drag and end up into addiction.
Many people who struggle with smoke addiction may eventually wind up with an addiction of a life time damages the god gifted body and spirit, hard to get out of it.

For many people struggling with addiction, the biggest and toughest step toward recovery is the very first one: deciding to make a change. It’s normal to feel conflicted about giving up your drug of choice, even when you realize it’s causing problems in your life. Change is never easy—and committing to sobriety involves changing many things, including:

 the way you deal with stress
 who you allow in your life
 what you do in your free time
 how you think about yourself

You may wonder if you’re really ready for all that change or if you have what it takes to quit. It’s okay if you’re torn. Recovering from addiction is a long process, one that requires time, commitment, motivation, and support. As you contemplate your situation, the following tips can help you make the decision.

Gambling takes many forms from playing the lottery to betting on horses to high-stakes casino betting. Many people enjoy some form of gambling as a fun, but infrequent hobby or pastime. However, some suffer from a gambling addiction that can wreak havoc on their personal and financial lives.

When a person suffers from a gambling addiction, there are fewer outward signs than other addictions. A gambling addict may feel depressed and suffer mood swings, but unless their financial situation is an open book to others, their problem may be severe before anyone notices. For this reason, gambling addiction is often referred to as a “hidden” addiction.

Unlike an average person gambling for fun, a person suffering from a gambling addiction does not know when to quit. They gamble more than they can afford to lose. They might gamble their rent or mortgage payment, their grocery money, or even their entire life savings.

A moderate addiction to money may not always be hurtful; but when taken in excess it is nearly always bad for the health.

 
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Posted by on October 18, 2011 in Addiction

 

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Karva Chauth: fast from sunrise to moonrise


Karva chauth is an annual one-day festival celebrated by Hindu and some Sikh women in North India and parts of Pakistan in which married women fast from sunrise to moonrise for the safety and longevity of their husbands.

Today Live in relationship and easy separation, found a regular space & acceptance from Indian Society, may be due to High acceptance of western cultural.
Does the Karva Chauth importance is still the same in Indian society or people are just following it for the sake of it? Does the concept like Karva chauth is only followed in villages?

In today society where the relationship is not bound with any promises & commitment, the Separation, live in relationship rate have increased.

The patience level in a relationship is no longer there.

People find it’s easy to move in & out from a relationship which has bought the commitment level down. Due to fast moving life, the long term relationship phase is not there.

In between all this, KARVA CHAUTH is still has the same charm and magic. Women still follow the same tradition of fast from sunrise to moonrise for the safety and longevity of their husbands.

It’s true the live-in relationship does exist in Indian society but it didn’t affect the true tradition of Karva Chauth, it still has the same spark and charisma.

The festival of Karwa Chauth is celebrated mostly by North India. This event is growing bigger with each passing day. In addition to the traditional items such as henna, beauty products and fashionable clothes, the demand of special eateries are also gearing up. Nowadays, Karwa Chauth is more of fun than a serious festival.

 
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Posted by on October 14, 2011 in festivals

 

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