Woah woah… love is all around me….
Nooo I am not in love.
But Valentine’s Day is around the corner. So most of the happening places are fully decorated in Delhi .
Not all only this, open the newspaper, you’ll see all the great offers like take your partner for holiday at great price….book your table …. Couple entry charges… and blah blahhhhhh…
Not only this even online, you open any site, all the flashy colored background showing all the red and pinky-pinky themes… oh man seriously, it is annoying man.
It was time, when Valentine’s Day was only celebrated in western country. But now it is celebrated like any other festival. Only difference is, this day is only for couples.
Valentine’s day is all about love, relationship, commitment and the love that we all want from a partner is not possible without both having the commitment to try to make it last.
The oldest institution on earth concerning human relationships is marriage that has survived all odds all over the world. Despite doubts raised by people who suffer failure in marriage, strangely it is something that most aspire to reach at some point in their life. Those who fail once, wish to try it the second or even third time. I am not talking of western countries where celebrities get into multiple marriages for the sake of money offered for scoops.
So what is it that makes marriage desirable? Why not just live in together and walk away when it becomes inconvenient? Why get married and then suffer the trauma of divorce if you are incompatible? Why suffer idiosyncrasies of your partner? Why spend rest of your life with a person whose wavelength doesn’t match yours? Why travel half way to make up rather than walk away whenever you want? These choices are available in Live in relationships.
No one has complete control on things and situations around. This includes the choice to have a perfect and/or ideal mate. We would all like to have a person as our life-partner who is perfect in our eyes in all possible aspects. But is it actually possible? Isn’t it only a wishful thought? And are we ourselves perfect?
Many people imagine that living together before marriage resembles taking a car for a test drive. The “trial period” gives people a chance to discover whether they are compatible. This analogy seems so compelling that people are unable to interpret the mountains of data to the contrary.
Here’s the problem with the car analogy: the car doesn’t have hurt feelings if the driver dumps it back at the used car lot and decides not to buy it. The analogy works great if you picture yourself as the driver. It stinks if you picture yourself as the car.
“Only Fools think in terms of negality”, otherwise love is enough..